Carl Roger's View of Self-Actualizing Tendencies
Carol Rogers, another influential humanistic psychologist, agreed with Maslow's thinking. However, he believed that people are basically good, and they simply have the qualities for self-actualization. He thought, that unless these qualities were disrupted by the environment which would inhibit growth, each person is basically like an acorn that is primed for greatness. He believed that the ideal climate would be an environment that included genuineness, acceptance, and empathy. Why these three qualities?
According to Rogers, people nurture our growth by being genuine towards us. Being genuine implies being open with their own feelings, dropping their facades, and being transparent and self-disclosing. When it comes to this particular point, I do think Carl Rogers is right. People feel a sense of comfort when talking to someone that's being forthcoming to us. No one likes someone that's all closed up to talk to. If someone goes for that, they might as well not talk to anyone about anything.
With acceptance, Rogers said that people nurture our growth by being accepting, which in turn means offering something know as unconditional positive regard. This is an attitude of grace which acknowledges us, even without failings as humans. It's discussed that it's a great relief to drop our pretenses and say what we really want to say, or do the things we really want to do, and still after all of it, be accepted and loved. I think it's something wonderful. I have a friend, whom I tell anything to and I feel like they won't judge, and it really is the greatest relief to just tell her everything and know that she's not going to be horrified by whatever atrocity I divulge. An example would be recently I managed to eat 6 donuts out of a dozen in a day, in a very short span of time. When I told her about, she simply laughed, but it was the kind of laugh like she knew it was something to be expected because she knows just exactly how much of a fatty I can be.
Another thing that is stated in regards to acceptance is in a good marriage, a close family, or an intimate friendship, we feel free to be our spontaneous selves without fearing that we will be judged, and I definitely agree with this particular point because it 's exactly how I feel with this particular friend of mine.
Lastly, we're nurtured by people being empathetic - by sharing and mirroring our feelings and reflecting our meanings. Think about it, how great does it feel to have someone to talk to and see in that person's face, the same feeling of sadness or horror you yourself may be reflecting as you recount your tale of woe. We like to see people listen attentively and show expressions because it makes us see that they're paying attention and most importantly, they care. No one wants to talk to someone who simply sits there stoically listening and provide no facial expression.
By being nurtured with acceptance, empathy, and genuineness, we begin to develop a more caring attitude toward ourselves. It also becomes easier to follow the workings of inner experiences.
All of this comes into play when it comes to reaching our self-actualizing tendencies. By getting empathy, acceptance, and genuineness, we're obtaining our need for a higher self-esteem, which leads to satisfying our need for self-esteem we can now move on to beginning our process of self-actualization. Empathy, acceptance, and genuineness are definitely important to us when it comes to reaching our full potential. With all of this provided for us - having people be genuine, accepting, and empathetic - we feel loved, which in turn helps with out concept of self. By feeling loved, display a positive self-concept and are therefore primed to do positive deeds.
According to Rogers, people nurture our growth by being genuine towards us. Being genuine implies being open with their own feelings, dropping their facades, and being transparent and self-disclosing. When it comes to this particular point, I do think Carl Rogers is right. People feel a sense of comfort when talking to someone that's being forthcoming to us. No one likes someone that's all closed up to talk to. If someone goes for that, they might as well not talk to anyone about anything.
With acceptance, Rogers said that people nurture our growth by being accepting, which in turn means offering something know as unconditional positive regard. This is an attitude of grace which acknowledges us, even without failings as humans. It's discussed that it's a great relief to drop our pretenses and say what we really want to say, or do the things we really want to do, and still after all of it, be accepted and loved. I think it's something wonderful. I have a friend, whom I tell anything to and I feel like they won't judge, and it really is the greatest relief to just tell her everything and know that she's not going to be horrified by whatever atrocity I divulge. An example would be recently I managed to eat 6 donuts out of a dozen in a day, in a very short span of time. When I told her about, she simply laughed, but it was the kind of laugh like she knew it was something to be expected because she knows just exactly how much of a fatty I can be.
Another thing that is stated in regards to acceptance is in a good marriage, a close family, or an intimate friendship, we feel free to be our spontaneous selves without fearing that we will be judged, and I definitely agree with this particular point because it 's exactly how I feel with this particular friend of mine.
Lastly, we're nurtured by people being empathetic - by sharing and mirroring our feelings and reflecting our meanings. Think about it, how great does it feel to have someone to talk to and see in that person's face, the same feeling of sadness or horror you yourself may be reflecting as you recount your tale of woe. We like to see people listen attentively and show expressions because it makes us see that they're paying attention and most importantly, they care. No one wants to talk to someone who simply sits there stoically listening and provide no facial expression.
By being nurtured with acceptance, empathy, and genuineness, we begin to develop a more caring attitude toward ourselves. It also becomes easier to follow the workings of inner experiences.
All of this comes into play when it comes to reaching our self-actualizing tendencies. By getting empathy, acceptance, and genuineness, we're obtaining our need for a higher self-esteem, which leads to satisfying our need for self-esteem we can now move on to beginning our process of self-actualization. Empathy, acceptance, and genuineness are definitely important to us when it comes to reaching our full potential. With all of this provided for us - having people be genuine, accepting, and empathetic - we feel loved, which in turn helps with out concept of self. By feeling loved, display a positive self-concept and are therefore primed to do positive deeds.